In Memoriam

The souls of the just are in the hand of God…..

MHR parishioners fondly remember their family members and friends who have died. We pray continually for their peace and for our reunion with them in the Lord.


Mehak  Alice Mehak  – March 22, 1922—July 31, 2014
Mrs. Alice Mehak
Funeral Mass at Most Holy Redeemer Church on Friday, August 8, at
11:00 a.m. Followed by burial at Holy Cross Cemetery 

Please remember in the charity of your prayers our dear parishioner Alice Mehak, who did so much for God and God’s people here at Most Holy Redeemer Parish.   Alice died in her beloved San Francisco on July 31.  Alice and her husband Adolph who preceded her in death, married 65 years, were long-time and faithful parishioners of MHR.  They could often be seen at the 8:00 a.m. Mass bringing up the gifts.  Please remember Alice’s daughters, Dianne and JoAnn and their families in your prayers as well, as they mourn her passing.

Eternal rest grant unto her O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon her.  May the soul of Alice Mehak and the souls of all the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace.  Amen.

Yours in Christ,

Fr. Matt Link, cpps


John Squeri John Squeri – October 29, 1935—July 16, 2014

With sadness tempered by our belief in the Resurrection, our Church Community offers love and condolences to John Squeri’s family as they celebrate his journey to God and that New Jerusalem for which we long. John passed away July 17, 2014 with his wife Barbara and children at his side. John graduated from Most Holy Redeemer school and has been a life-long member and minister of our faith community.

A Celebration of John’s Life and sending forth was held at Most Holy Redeemer on Tuesday, July 22nd at 11am.

Yours in Christ,

Fr. Jack McClure, C.PP.S.


edna    Edna Flores-Lagunte

On June 4, 2014 Edna suffered a cardiac event while participating as a cyclist in AIDS/LifeCycle 2014, along side of her husband Richard Lagunte, who was riding with her when it happened. The MHR community was notified that Edna passed away Pentecost Sunday, at 10am. This was Edna’s thirteenth year as a participant in AIDS/LifeCycle, an event which she loved deeply. She was a proud Training Ride Leader and helped prepare thousands of people in Northern California for the event. She has made an incredible difference in the AIDS/LifeCycle community. Edna was a long time parishioner of Most Holy Redeemer. Her bright smile and charming character never changed no matter what the circumstance. Edna had been a member of the Young Adults Group, Acolytes and Lectors just to name a few. A funeral mass was held on Sunday, June 15th at 1:00pm.


Lois Borstel  October 29, 1926 – April 24, 2014

Lois Borstel Born in San Francisco on October 29, 1926.  Passed away April, 24, 2014.  Married to David Borstel on September 14, 1946.  Mother of Tom, Susan (Mark Coyle), and Michael (Linda).  Grandmother of Guin, Heather, and Shaula (Brandon Stevenson).  Preceded in death by sister Peggy Unruh and daughter-in-law Christine.  Lois loved golf and cultivating African violets and orchids.  A funeral mass was held on Friday, May 16 at 11 AM at Most Holy Redeemer Church, 100 Diamond St, San Francisco.



RoyCairo (3)  Roy John Cairo

Beloved son of Carole and Louis and dear brother of Keith and Scott. Roy John was a member of many different ministries at Most Holy Redeemer. The Wednesday Night Suppers, Little Church, Lectors, Acolytes and Cursillo to name just a few. MHR held a Memorial Service for Roy John June 14th @ 11A, followed by a reception in the back of the church.

 Our world has truly been diminished by the loss of his gentle soul.


Robert Van Etten

Robert Van Etten, husband of Thomas Van Etten died March 13, 2014 after a courageous battle with cancer.  Robert and his husband were active members for several years at MHR before they moved to Palm Springs.  They both have kept in touch with various parishioners over the years and expressed how much they missed MHR and how MHR could not be replicated anywhere else.  Robert and his husband loved MHR and were involved with MHR Aids Support Group and were great activists on behalf of the LGBT Community of MHR and San Francisco.  Thomas expresses gratitude for the many cards that he received after Robert’s passing from many in the Parish.

RockelBruce Rockel 

March 24, 1957 – February 6-2-14


MargoMargo McCabe

September 25,1970 – February 7, 2014

Margo was a miracle.  Adopted at birth, she was raised by her loving father Vincent Dennis Schmidt in Los Angeles and the Bay area.  The pair made a unique and wonderful family, giving Margo the foundation from which to finish college (University of the Pacific), complete a Masters in Business Administration (American University), provide strategic planning for a Fortunate 500 company (Marriott Corp.), develop real estate in Washington, D.C., Alaska and Oregon, marry John Trevor McCabe, move with him to Alaska where she lived happily after 1999, and raise four beautiful children — Molly, Lauren, Sarah and Robert — who are certain to be happy and honor their mother’s legacy by enriching the lives of others even though their time with Margo was cut short by her cancer.

Throughout adult life Margo helped others, particularly children, through volunteer work such as counseling youth in Washington, D.C., serving as a court appointed special advocate (CASA) for foster children in Alaska, serving as President of the Alaska Children’s Trust, developing new programs for kids as President of the Alaska Zoo, and participating fully in the many activities of her four children.

During her two-year battle with cancer, people from all eras of Margo’s life returned with kind messages.  Her optimism had apparently been infectious even as far back as when she was just 10 years old:  Margo brought hope to someone who 33 years later wrote to thank her.  We mostly remember that Margo did not rush to judge people: she simply expected that each of us would be wonderful too.  And because of that, we were wonderful too.   Her radiant presence raised everyone in her sphere, made life enjoyable for those fortunate enough to be around her.

We remain inspired by Margo’s grace, moved by her love and positivity, impressed by the extraordinary story of her upbringing, and deeply grateful to her father, Vincent Schmidt, for the love he gave to Margo which allowed her to become such a bright, determined, positive and extraordinary woman, such a miracle.   We are also thankful for the peace that Margo received through her deep faith in God during the difficult two years leading up to her passage to Heaven.


GalazJoseph Galaz

March 22, 1948 – January 27, 2014



Cora IsmarinCora Ismarin

August 14, 1030 – January 3, 2014




Wansley (2)Ann Wansley

September 10, 1922 – October 13,2013

Bob 2012

Robert “Bob” Nelson – July 6, 1951 to August 31, 2013

Bob Nelson was born in Seattle, Washington on July 6, 1951 and grew up in San Jose, California. In 1973 Bob entered the Benedictine Priory of St. Andrews in Valyermo, Ca. In 1975 Bob left the Benedictines and joined the Dominicans in Berkeley. He received his BA in Philosophy in 1976 from the Graduate School of Theology (GTU) in Berkeley.   Bob then left the Dominicans and started his career with community non-profits.

Bob’s career spanned over 20+ years and he dedicated his life and passion to HIV / AIDS, the Homeless, isolated Seniors, cancer. He served as the Executive Director for Little Brothers Friends of the Elderly, East Bay Cancer Support Group, Dolores Street Community Services, and was a Director with Catholic Charities of San Francisco.

Bob served on numerous community Boards and Commissions. He served as Co-Chair for the San Francisco Homeless Coordinating Council from 2001 – 2003. At Catholic Charities in 1987 he participated in the creation of the largest HIV/AIDS housing program, and the integration of Domestic Partner benefits into their insurance package.




Betty Coffin
Betty Coffin Aged 80 years, died peacefully Sunday, April 28, 2012. She is survived by her loving husband, Stanley, daughters Pam (Craig) Hellon, Cris (Paul) Astabie” and son Scott Coffin. She is the loving grandmother of Jessica, Leigha, Jason, and Christopher. Betty was born in San Francisco and graduated from Polytechnic High School. She was actively involved with her Church, Most Holy Redeemer, was a volunteer with the Duboce Triangle Newsletter, an avid SF Giants fan. She was involved with the Aids Memorial Quilt, helping to make over 200 quilts. She was honored by Mayor Frank Jordan for Community Service and by Most Holy Redeemer Aids Support Group. Betty was a loving wife, mother and grandmother. Friends may call Tuesday after 3PM at SULLIVAN’S FUNERAL HOME, 2254 Market St. , bet Noe and Sanchez Sts., where a Vigil Service will be at 7:00PM and are invited to the committal service Wednesday at 11:00 AM at Holy Cross Cemetery. Donations in Betty’s memory preferred to Breast Cancer Research.


Fr. Zachary Shore
Fr. Zachary Joseph-Michael Shore passed away peacefully Saturday July 23rd, 2011, born March 21st, 1937. Youngest son of the late William and Bridie Shore. He was born Joseph Michael Shore and raised in San Francisco. Attended Saint Paul Grammer School. Upon graduation (1951) entered Mount La Salle High School in Napa. He entered the Novitiate of the Brothers of the Christian Schools (Christian Brothers). In 1955 received the religious habit and name, Brother Zachary. Attended Saint Mary’s College in Moraga where he graduated in 1960. Taught at Sacred Heart High School in San Francisco from 1960 – 1965. His other teaching assignments were: Cathedral High School in Los Angeles, 1965 – 1967. Principal of Garces High School in Bakersfield until 1970. He was appointed director of novices in Napa from 1973 – 1977. In 1979 he withdrew from the Christian Brothers to attend Saint Patrick seminary to prepare for the priesthood. He was ordained in 1981 by Archbishop John R. Quinn. He had assignments at our Lady of Mercy Church in Daly City and Saint Cecilia Church in San Francisco. Pastor of Most Holy Redeemer Church for twelve and a half years. Pastor of The Church of the Visitacion for four years. Upon retirement, he resided at Alma Via in San Francisco. His oldest brother John F. Shore passed away in 1979. He is survived by his brother William P. Shore (Jeanne) he is uncle to Karen (Jim Dobberstein), Bill (Jena) and Tim (Kristin) Shore. Grand nieces and nephews, Katie, Lauren, Tom, Julia, Darby, Liam and Teige. He is also uncle to Maureen, Sandy, and the late John and Michael Shore, children of his late brother John Shore. A special thanks to his good friends, staff and caregivers at Alma Via of San Francisco. His family would also like to thank the caring nurses and doctors at St Mary’s I.C.U. and Kentfield Rehab in Marin County. Friends may visit 9:30am with a Rosary 10:45am followed by a Funeral Mass 11am on Friday, July 29, all at St. Thomas More Church, 1300 Junipero Serra Blvd, San Francisco Ca. Committal Holy Cross Cemetery, Colma. In lieu of flowers, donations preferred to the Sacred Heart Cathedral Building Fund, 1055 Ellis St. San Francisco Ca. 94109.

Mike Gelpi
We regret to announce the passing of longtime parishioner, Mike Gelpi. Mike died this morning, Sunday, January 23rd. Viewing and a Vesper Service will be held in the church Friday, January 28 at 7:30 pm. The Funeral service will be held at 2pm on Saturday with a reception following in Ellard Hall.

Mike was deeply involved over the years in a number of MHR parish ministries, most recently as moderator of the Reconnecting Ministry and the MHR Retreats Ministry.


Alma Sullivan (1918 – 2010)
The MHR Family regrets to announce the passing of parishioner Alma Sullivan. Alma was born in Nebraska, April 9, 1918, and passed away, at the age of 92, on Tuesday, December 21.

A Rosary Memorial will take place at St. Pius Catholic Church in Redwood City on Tuesday, December 28 at 7:00pm. A Mass of the Resurrection will be celebrated Wednesday, December 29 at 11:00am at St. Pius followed by the brial at Gate of Heaven Cemetery. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to the Most Holy Redeemer AIDS Support Group or Music Fund, 100 Diamond St., San Francisco, CA 94114 or to Sequoia Hospital Foundation, Catholic Chaplains/Hospice Ministry, 170 Alameda de las Pulgas, Redwood City, CAa 94062. (Information from obituary available at

A memorial service will also be celebrated at Most Holy Redeember Church, Saturday, January 15, at 1pm. Frs. Steve Meriwether, and Donal Godfrey concelebrating. A reception will follow in Ellard Hall.

Beverly M. DeVos (1957 – 2010)
DeVos, Beverly M. Age 53, of Plymouth. Passed away peacefully at home November 18th. Survived by husband, Greg; children, Caitlin and Nick DeVos; siblings, David Differding of San Francisco, Paul (Ellen) Differding of Chanhassen, Danny Differding of San Antonio, TX. & LuAnn (Mike) Fier of Minneota, MN. Preceded in death by parents, Joe and Josie Differding and triplet sisters, Bonnie and Brenda in 1969 at the age of 12. She was also preceded in death by her nephew, Neil Fier, son of LuAnn and Mike. Mass of Christian Burial 11 AM Saturday, November 27th at St. Joseph’s Parish Center, 8701 36th Ave N., New Hope, MN. Visitation Friday 4-8 PM with prayer service 7:30 PM at Gearty-Delmore Plymouth Chapel, 15800 37th Ave N. at Vicksburg Lane, and Saturday at church one hour before mass. Memorials preferred to the Frauenshuh Cancer Center at Methodist Hospital, St. Louis Park. Gearty-Delmore 763-553-1411.

Tom Fry (1936 – 2010)
Tom Fry of San Francisco passed away October 12, 2010 due to complications of diabetes and pneumonia. Tom was born in Pacific Grove in 1936 and graduated in 1954 from Junipero Memorial High School in Monterey. He continued his education at Ryan Seminary, USF and St. Patrick’s Seminary, and was ordained in 1963.

During his Priesthood, Tom was active in many causes, including co-founding Dignity San Francisco in 1973. He met and marched with Dr. Martin Luther King in Selma, Alabama, in 1964 and civil rights activist, Cesar Chavez.

Survivors include his brother Larry Fry, and several nieces and nephews. He was preceded in death by parents Fred X and Helen, brothers Fred X Jr., Donald and Gerald T. Fry. He was also preceded in death by his partner of 21 years, Ivan Lowney. A Celebration of Life will be held at Most Holy Redeemer Church, 100 Diamond St., San Francisco on November 13 from 10:00 am to noon. The Neptune Society of No. California is in charge of cremation.

The family suggests memorial donations be made to Dignity San Francisco or the donor’s favorite charity.

Vera Marie Smith
It is with sadness that we announce the passing of one of our parishioners, Ms. Vera Marie Smith. The Funeral Mass for her is scheduled this Friday, June 11 at 3 p.m. We hope that you can join the Parish community in celebrating Marie’s life.

Anna Maria Heredia (July 25, 1917 – April 27, 2010)
It is with sadness that we announce the passing of Ms. Anna M. Heredia, a long time parishioner. The Memorial Mass for her is scheduled for tomorrow, Saturday, May 1 at 11 a.m. We hope that you can join the Parish community in celebrating Anna’s life. Further information….

Carlos Linn Miller
It is with a heavy heart that we announce the passing of our dear Carlos Linn Miller on Wednesday, February 17, 2010. He is survived by his partner of 18 years, Kiki Tjie of San Francisco, CA, his son Alexander Miller Woodbury-Monda of Wilkes-Barre, PA, his mom Joann L. Miller of Martinsburg, PA, his sister Tanya L. Miller of Petersburg, PA, his two brothers Lamie L. Miller of Port St. Lucie, FL and Joel R. Miller of Altoona, PA, his grandparents J. Alton and Lena S. Pote of Martinsburg, PA, aunts and uncle, cousins and many, many friends, near and far.

Carlos was born on december 3, 1958 in Roaring Spring, PA, son to Ivan O. Miller and Joann L. Miller. He grew up in rural Pennsylvania and graduated from Northern Bedford high school in 1976.

After graduation, Carlos moved to Ft. Lauderdale, FL where he studied nursing. He became a licensed practical nurse in 1979. In 1984 he became a registered nurse with an as degree from broward community college.
In 1987 he moved to San francisco, CA where he continued his studies and earned a bachelor’s degree in health services administration from Saint Mary’s College. Subsequently he started to work for California Pacific Medical Center.

In 1988, Carlos’ dad passed away, an event which would haunt Carlos for the rest of his life. In november of 1991, he became the proud dad of Alexander.

In December of 1992, Carlos met his partner Kiki and they started their wonderful journey together. Ever so aspiring for bigger and better things, Carlos went back to school part-time for his masters degree in human resources & organizational development at USF, where he graduated in 1999. In 1998 he started to work at Kaiser Permanente corporate headquarters where he managed different projects and continued to advance until he became director of clinical application support – information technology – care delivery.

Over the years, Carlos and Kiki have traveled to many corners of the world. Carlos loved to visit Kiki’s family in Indonesia and loved traveling to Europe. He was dreaming of one day retiring in Indonesia. He equally enjoyed dining out with friends, a weekend in the country and drinking a good glass of wine or champagne. What really set Carlos apart, though, were his incredible and sincere skills in human interaction. Whether you knew Carlos for an hour or a decade, you felt you had a friend that you could trust. That makes this loss so hard on all of us who knew him.

God bless and rest in peace our dear friend!


Father Joe Healy
Most Holy Redeemer, Parochial Vicar
February 27, 1944 – December 4, 2009

We are very sorry to inform you that Father Joseph Healy died of respiratory failure last evening, December 4, 2009 at Saint Mary’s Medical Center. He was 65 years of age, and had been ordained for 11 years.

Joe was born in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania in 1944, the last of triplets, and the 11th of 12 children. His father, James Healy, a steelworker and bricklayer, died when Joe was three. At the time of his death, there were 11 children in the family: two sets of twins, one set of triplets, and four “singles.” The eldest was sixteen and Joe’s mother, Rosemarie Conway Healy, was expecting her twelfth child. The family moved to the home of his maternal grandparents, where they were cared for while his mother earned money for her family as an office manager. Joe attended Saint Basil’s School in Pittsburgh. At the age of 14, he entered Saint Meinrad’s Seminary in Indiana, where he remained for his high school years, and for his first years of college. Joe was drafted at the age of 21 into the Army, where he served as a chaplain’s assistant, before being sent to the Central Highlands of South Vietnam as an infantryman. He was discharged with commendations after two years, and moved to San Francisco in 1968, joining his sister Marilyn. After acquiring his stock broker license, he worked in the financial district for 13 years. Joe then earned his Certificate for Alcohol and Drug Counseling, turning his attention to those most in need in San Francisco. By the early 1990s, he was supervisor and program director for several non-profit residential drug and alcohol rehabilitation centers serving substance abusers and the mentally ill. He completed his B.A. in Humanities at the University of San Francisco and at New College of California, and in 1993 was accepted into Saint Patrick’s Seminary, one year before his mother’s death.

Father Joe Healy was ordained by then-Archbishop William Levada on June 8, 1998. Father served as a parochial vicar at Immaculate Heart of Mary Church in Belmont (1998 – 2004), Saint Robert Church (2004 – 2007), and Most Holy Redeemer Church (2007-2009).

The following arrangements have been made by his family:

Vigil: Friday, December 11, 2009, 7:00 p.m.
Ellard Hall of Most Holy Redeemer Church, 100 Diamond Street, San Francisco

Funeral Mass: Saturday, December 12, 2009, 10:00 a.m.
Most Holy Redeemer Church, San Francisco

Please join Father Steve Meriwether, and the Parishioners of Most Holy Redeemer in remembering Father Joe and his many brothers and sisters. Your letters of condolence may be sent to his dear sister, Marilyn Healy, and her son, Alexander Joseph, 1357 Clay Street, Apartment #4, San Francisco, CA 94109.

Ruth Burchell Budesa (Oct. 3, 1921 – July 19, 2009)
Our loving mother, Ruth, was born on October 3, 1921 in Bayshore, Long Island. She was 87 years old when she died on July 19, 2009, and passed into God’s loving light.

Ruth lived and worked in San Francisco most of her life. San Francisco is where she raised her family of five boys as a single mother in the 1950’s, working at various jobs to make ends meet. Most notably, she worked as a telephone operator for 15 years at the prestigious law firm of Heller, Ehrman, White, and McAulif. She was then employed at L.F. Rothchild, a brokerage firm, where she retired from big city life and move to Sonora, California with her husband, Stanley Budesa, a retired long shoreman. They lived happily in Sonora for 30 years.

While living in Sonora, Ruthie, as she was affectionately called, worked for Mother Lode Answering Service for 15 years, and then joined Sonora Internal Medicine, where after several years she finally retired with much fanfare and celebration. All in all she had worked for over sixty years.

Ruthie had a generous heart, and was always there to lend a helping hand. She was a mother figure to so many always inviting people to her home who had no place to go for the holidays; her “Orphans”, she called them. Her home was open to all, and she received her guests with warmth and great joy.

Ruth loved people, her animals, and loved to have fun. She enjoyed entertaining, and was a great cook. These talents where always shared with family and her dear friends. She loved her garden, enjoyed music, and dancing. She had a marvelous sense of humor, coupled with great taste and personal style. She always looked lovely, and kept a beautiful home. As a result, in 1962 she was nominated “San Francisco Lady Fair”, which awarded a trip to Pairs, and a fabulous Oleg Cassini wardrobe.

Ruth was a parishioner at All Saints Catholic church in Twain Harte for many years where she was eventually baptized. More recently she became a parishioner at Saint Patrick’s Church in Sonora. Her church and faith gave her much strength and comfort in life.

She was preceded in death by her mother, Ruth Engle Wright-Combs, her father Robert Burchell Combs, her brother Kenneth Burchell Combs, and
her husband, Stanley Marion Budesa. She is survived by her five sons, Michael Paul Giannini, of San Diego, Paul Michael Giannini, of San Francisco, Robert Joseph Giannini, of San Francisco, John Paul Giannini, of Tuolumne, and William Joseph Osuna, of San Francisco; 14 grandchildren, and nine great grandchildren, and many loving and caring friends.

She was very proud of her family, and will always be remembered by the people her life touched.

There will be a funeral mass in celebration of Ruthie’s life at Saint Patrick’s Catholic Church in Sonora, on Friday, July 31, 2009, at 11:00 AM. A reception and pot luck will follow at Quail Hollow Apartments Club House, 20230 Grouse Way, (209) 533-1310.

A private funeral mass for immediate family and friends will take place at Most Holy Redeemer Catholic Church, 100 Diamond Street, in San Francisco at 11:30 a.m. on Saturday, August 8. A reception luncheon will follow in the parish hall.

In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be made to VNA-Hospice of Sonora, P.O. Box 4805, Sonora, CA 95370.
Terzich and Wilson Funeral Home are handling arrangements.

Florence M. Loeber
Florence M. Loeber Of San Francisco, passed away peacefully March 1, 2009 at the age of 100. Born November 26, 1908 to the late John and Elita Locher. Dear cousin of the late Geraldine Rook. She is survived by many loving friends in her community where she spent her entire life. Florence was an employee of the Bank of America, retiring after 39 years of loyal service. She was also a longtime parishioner of Most Holy Redeemer Church, as well as a member of the Castro Senior Center. Donations in Florence’s memory preferred to the Castro Senior Center, 100 Diamond St., SF, CA 94114.


Lorraine Mary Bush
Lorraine Mary Bush Passed away peacefully with her family by her side at her home in San Francisco on September 14, 2008. Lorraine was born in Marysville on January 19, 1910. The family lived in San Francisco where she graduated from Immaculate Conception Academy in 1927. Shortly thereafter she married Leonard J. Bush of Tacoma, Washington. In 1938 he suffered an unfortunate accident, his untimely death, leaving his widow alone to raise their four young children. During World War Il Lorraine supported the family by caring for the children of working mothers. After the war she embarked on a career as a cosmetologist, finding employment at the San Francisco School of Beauty. In the early 1950s her skill and abilities supplemented by a business degree from the University of San Francisco earned her an offer to serve as a teaching instructor at the recently opened West Contra Costa Junior College in Richmond. Her stellar performance there led San Mateo Junior College in the mid 1950s to hire her as head of its new department of cosmetology. The College asked her to plan, design and develop the department as part of an expansion of the college at Coyote Point. The department she founded flourished and excelled, both there and years later in 1963 when the College, renamed College of San Mateo, moved it to its new hillside campus. Lorraine retired in 1975 and devoted the remainder of her life to helping the poor, needy and disabled. She worked as a volunteer at Laguna Honda Hospital helping the disabled to attend Sunday Mass; delivered milk and other foods to shut-ins unable to leave their rooms in the Tenderloin; and served as Eucharistic minister bringing Holy Communion to the elderly and infirm of her beloved church, Most Holy Redeemer. She was at one time a member of the Olympic Club, the Diamond Senior Center, the Adult Benevolent Association of St. Boniface, the Most Holy Redeemer Ladies Sodality and Legion of Mary, and a form Prioress of the Third Order of St. Dominic. She was the loving mother of James (Sally), William (Irma) and Harold (Diane) Bush, and Doris (Frank) Lawrence; loving sister of the late Paul Girard, Frances Hassman, Thomas Girard and the late Fr. Damian Giannotti OP; loving grandmother of 20 grandchildren and 33 great-grandchildren. Family and friends may call Thursday after 3:OOPM at SULLIVAN’S FUNERAL HOME, 2254 Market St., bet Noe and Sanchez Sts, where the Vigil Service will be at 7:OOPM, and are invited to the Funeral Friday departing the funeral home at 9:30AM, then to Most Holy Redeemer Church, 18th and Diamond Sts., where the Funeral Mass will be at 10:OOAM. Committal in Holy Cross Cemetery. Donations in Lorraine’s memory preferred to Pathways hospice, 395 Oyster Point Blvd., Suite #128 South San Francisco, CA 94080, or Most Holy Redeemer Church, 115 Diamond St., San Francisco, CA 94114.

Published in the San Francisco Chronicle on 9/17/2008.

Robert Douglas
It is with sadness that we announce the passing of one of our parishioners, Robert Douglas. Robert will be remember for his love of his Eucharistic Ministry at Most Holy Redeemer.

Anthony “Tony” Geracimos
Anthony “Tony” Geracimos 24, passed away on Sept. 14, 2008. Adored son of Steve Geracimos (Coleen) and Diane Casey (Jim). Devoted brother of Melissa Geracimos. Cherished grandson of Mary and the late Nick Geracimos, Robert and Sue Stephenson, and Larry and Lucille Casey. Loving nephew and cousin. Honorably served our country in the U.S. Navy from 2003-2007. He shared an eternal and loyal closeness with his second family, his friends. He will be remembered by all, as loving and giving. His everlasting sense of humor will remain in our hearts forever. “Underneath the pale moonlight we are all thinking of you and loving you tonight.” We pray that you have found peace. Be safe big guy. Friends are invited to attend the Memorial Service Sat., 11am, DUGGAN’S SERRA MORTUARY, 500 Westlake Ave., Daly City.

Published in the San Francisco Chronicle from 9/18/2008 – 9/19/2008

Bernice E. Ayala
Bernice E. Ayala Loving wife, sister, mother, grandmother, aunt, cousin, and friend. Bernice Elizabeth Ayala (nee Lubetich) passed away with her husband by her side on May 13, 2008 at the age of 84 after a short battle with cancer. Bernice is survived by her husband, Ernest “Chuck” Ayala; sister, LaVerne and dear brother-in-law, Lloyd “Dick” Paff. She was the devoted mother of Darlene (John) Goldberg, Michael Ayala, and Joseph (Lee) Ayala; cherished grandmother of Anthony, Nicole, and Danielle Ayala, and Lauren Goldberg; and also “Granny” to Kelly Preston and Jessica Logoteta. Bernice was predeceased by her parents Marion and Dorothy Lubetich; devoted son, Robert J. Ayala, and loving niece, Shereen J. Paff. Bernice was born on November 27, 1923 and was a lifelong resident of Eureka Valley in San Francisco and Most Holy Redeemer Parish. Bernice graduated rom Longfellow, Balboa High School and City College of San Francisco. Bernice was the consummate wife of her “Chuck” supporting and joining in his every endeavor. Bernice was a lifetime member of Las Madrinas, a support group for Centro Latino de SF (CLSF). She volunteered for the immigration food replacement program for many years. In this capacity she packaged food boxes to distribute to immigrant families and low income elderly. Bernice looked forward to participating in the annual CLSF Bob Ayala Christmas Party and providing food and gifts to the children in the neighborhood. Bernice loved to be surrounded by her family and friends and her home was always the gathering place. Everyone was invited to her table. She was an active participant in all her family’s life and never missed an event. Bernice was always smiling, encouraging, and boosting your confidence. Her radiant smile will be missed by all who knew and loved her. Family and friends may call on Friday after 2:00pm and are invited to attend the Vigil (Rosary) at 7:00pm at DUGGAN’S FUNERAL SERVICE, 3434 17th Street. A Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated on Saturday at 1:00pm at Most Holy Redeemer Catholic Church, 100 Diamond Street at 18th St. Committal on Monday, 1:00pm at Holy Cross Cemetery. Donations in Bernice’s memory may be made to Centro Latino de San Francisco at 1656 15th Street SF, CA 94103. THE DUGGAN WELCH FAMILY (415) 431-4900 Off Street Parking.

Published in the San Francisco Chronicle from 9/18/2008 – 9/19/2008

Anna Cecilia Banonis
It is with sadness that we announce the passing of one of our parishioners, Anna Cecilia Banonis (April 17, 1915 – April 1, 2008), the mother of Bernie Banonis. The Funeral Mass will be held on Saturday, April 5, at 11 am at Most Holy Redeemer Church. We hope that you can join the parish community for the celebration of Anna’s life.

In lieu of flowers, the family would like donations be made to Most Holy Redeemer’s Bridging the Gap / Second Century Campaign in memory of Anna Banonis.

Kenneth James Emery
It is with sadness that we announce the passing of one of our parishioners, Kenneth James Emery (November 19, 1950 – March 28, 2008). The Funeral Mass will be held on Sunday, April 6, at 1 pm at Most Holy Redeemer Church. We hope that you can join the parish community for the celebration of Ken’s life.

William D. “Bill” Cyders
It is with sadness that we announce the passing of one of our parishioners, William D. “Bill” Cyders. Bill Cyders passed away December 24, 2007. The Funeral Mass will be held on Saturday, January 26, 2008; 11 am at Most Holy Redeemer Church.

We hope that you can join the parish community for this celebration of Bill’s life.

William H. “Bill” Funke
Bill passed away peacefully December 26, 2007 at age 84 after a brief hospitalization. Bill is survived by his daughter Louise, his two sons Will and Verne and his grandchildren Matthew, Ellen, Leanne, Camille, Jessica and Mia.

A native of La Crosse, Wisconsin, Bill practiced public accounting in New York, Chicago and San Francisco before teaching business math and accounting for over 20 years at City College of San Francisco. Upon retiring in 1986, Bill enjoyed entertaining friends and family, traveling, and contributing his time to multiple organizations.

Donations in Bill’s memory may be made to Project Open Hand or St. Anthony Foundation.

A Vigil service will be held at 7pm, Friday, December 28, at the Halsted N. Gray – Carew & English funeral home, 1123 Sutter Street. A Funeral Mass will be celebrated at 10am, Saturday, December 29 at Most Holy Redeemer Church, 100 Diamond Street.

Mary Quinlin
It is with sadness that we announce the passing of one of our long time parishioners, Mary Quinlin. The Memorial Mass will be held on Saturday, January 5, 2008; 10 am at Most Holy Redeemer Church.

We hope that you can join the parish community for this celebration of Mary’s life.


David Simmons
We regret to announce the death of David Simmons, former project manager of the MHR remodeling. David died, at the age of 42, of a heart attack last week. Vigil Service is at 7:30pm Wednesday; Funeral is at 11:30am Thursday, October 11 – both at St. Dominic’s.

Nick Geracimos
The MHR Parish family regrets to announce the death of Nick Geracimos. Nick was the husband of our parish bookkeeper, Mary Geracimos.

The Mass of the Resurrection will be celebrated this coming Tuesday, August 21, at 10:00 AM in the parish church.

SCOTT CAMPBELL (June 19, 2004)
How does one begin to write a memorial piece for a good friend who died too young and too quickly? I began by asking those of us who knew Scott Campell to give me a single word or phrase that they would use to describe Scott, and each one of us managed to capture an important aspect of who he was: “outspoken,” “direct,” “committed” “talented singer,” “many interests,” “great sense of humor.” These all, indeed, were aspects of who Scott was and what he brought to his work on the behalf of the GLBT community.

Born in Torrance, California, son of a policeman and a cradle Catholic, Scott’s outgoing nature and musical interests, combined with his ethic of hard work, loyalty to friends and community service, made him many friends throughout the course of his life. Having come out at a relatively early age, much of his energy from that time on was spent to make the world a better place for gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender individuals. Active in the Boy Scouts as a young man, Scott was involved in the recent push to combat the homophobia of that particular organization. With a beautiful tenor voice and a wide appreciation for many styles of music, he combined his love of singing with his GLBT activism through his long involvement with the Gay Men’s Chorus here in San Francisco . He became a good friend of mine when I joined Most Holy Redeemer parish in the heart of the Castro where he was a long-time member and mainstay of the church choir. Sitting on the parish council and various committees there, I saw how hard he worked to change what can be a very unwelcoming institutional church into a place of healing and acceptance for GLBT individuals. As a member of the GLBT subcommittee of the San Francisco Human Rights Commission, Scott was gracious enough to invite me to speak to that body about ways they, as a public body concerned with ensuring justice and fairness for all, might join forces with progressive churches in the city to combat religiously-based homophobia.

So after a New Leaf board meeting one evening, in which it was clear we needed to recruit a few more impassioned, committed people to round out our complement of board members, I was driving home on the Bay Bridge, and Scott’s name popped into my mind. He was thrilled to be asked to join us, since, as he told me early on, New Leaf had been able to literally save the life of a friend of his addicted to drugs and alcohol and he felt he owed the agency a tremendous debt of gratitude. All of us were thrilled to have him join us as well, in furthering our mission of wholeness and healing in the community-and his professional experience as a manager in the health care insurance industry didn’t hurt one bit!

Just before Christmas in 2002, a very dynamic and generous Scott came down with what we all first was simply a very bad, lingering flu, laying him uncharacteristically low for a long time. The actual diagnosis came in January: HIV-related lymphoma, and for the next 18 months, those of us who knew and loved him began to see what Scott was really made of. Courageous and tenacious, he tackled various courses of chemotherapy, underwent repeated hospitalizations, and when all these failed to stop the progression of the cancer, even underwent an experimental bone marrow transplantation procedure-all the while regularly singing at church, making his Human Rights Commission meetings, and participating as fully as possible on the New Leaf Program Committee of the Board of Directors. Along with others, I tried at various times to tactfully suggest, given his fatigue, that he might want to consider scaling back some of his volunteer and community service commitments, but he wouldn’t hear of it. “What am I going to do, just sit here and look at the ceiling and feel sorry for myself?” he said to at least half a dozen times over the past year and a half. “Keeping busy takes my mind of it, makes me feel useful.” So his cellphone calls, email jokes, and regular attendance at all his meetings continued unabated, to the amazement of many of us, literally right up until his death this past June.

Over coffee one morning long before his illness, I had mentioned to him that New Leaf was beginning a program of planned giving, and that I had made arrangements myself to have a portion of my life insurance and estate donated, after my death, to a number of different community organizations that I had worked for and supported. Little did I know that my offhand comment had been heard, and I was deeply touched in the period after Scott’s passing this summer to learn that he had made a bequest to the agency and would be the first member of New Leaf’s recently established Dorwin Buck Jones Legacy Society.

In addition, soon after Scott’s death, Charlie Fermeglia at MHR began talking about acquiring a good quality grand piano for the sanctuary, and knowing what a mainstay of our choir Scott had been, I spoke to his partner Steve who graciously made a contribution from Scott’s estate toward the piano that we now currently have in the sanctuary. So, even though it’s been almost three years now, every time I hear the piano during liturgy, I feel Scott is still with us, in his bright spirit, in his beautiful music, in his love for Most Holy Redeemer.

– Rob Hopcke

Scott’s Obituary notice from the San Francisco Chronicle:

CAMPBELL , Scott C. – In San Francisco, June 19, 2004, after a valiant struggle with cancer at the age of 43. Loving partner of Steve Spanjers; dear son of Earline and the late Colin Campbell ; dear brother of Colleen Campbell ; nephew of Diane Knowles; and cousin of Robin Murray; also survived by other loving family and many friends, including his longtime “second father,” Stan Bernhardt. A member of the SF Human Rights Commission; New Leaf Board of Directors and the SF Gay Men’s Chorus. Friends and family may visit Monday (TONIGHT) 5-8 PM at the CHAPELS of ARTHUR J. SULLIVAN & CO., 2254 Market St bet Noe and Sanchez Sts., and are invited to the Funeral departing the mortuary Tues, 10:30AM, then to Most Holy Redeemer Church for a Funeral Mass at 11:00AM. Committal, Good Shepherd Cemetery in Huntington Beach , CA. Donations in Scott ‘s memory preferred to New Leaf 1853 Market St. , SF 94103 . A SULLIVAN FAMILY SERVICE (415) 621-4567.

Thomas R. Olszewski (April 23, 1955 — February 18, 2007)
Thomas passed away peacefully at home in the city of San Francisco, Sunday evening February 18, 2007; surrounded by family and friends. Loving son of Lottie M. and Frank T. Olszewski (Binghamton, NY); brother of Robert M. Olszewski (San Francisco, CA); brother to Frank H. and Faye Olshefski (Houston, TX); Godfather and uncle to Sara A. and uncle to Luke J. (Houston, TX); beloved friend of Sr. Cathy Cahur S.C. (San Francisco); beloved nephew of Rita Balchikonis (Endwell, NY); cherished nephew of Theresa Binkley (Poughkeepsie, NY); dear nephew of Dorothy and Joseph Macko (Johnson City, NY); dear nephew of Joyce Tokos (Endwell, NY); many cousins, and many special and loyal friends: Father Tom Hayes, Sr. Cleta, Walter P, Kathryn, Mary, Walter M, Susan, Gertrude, Linda, Chuck, Pete, Romona, Alida, Lynn, Ellen, Debbie, Esther, Kathy, Dick, Mary, Larry, Suzanne, Vince, Nick, Greg and Tom and many others who added to the richness and joy of his life.

A member of the San Francisco and California State Bar, practicing Estate & Trust, and civil litigation attorney, generous volunteer of legal services to assist under represented clients with family, immigration and legal matters.

A man of faith and an active member of Most Holy Redeemer Parish, former member of parish council, catechist, member of RCIA formation commission, and member of Contemplative Outreach of Northern California.

Born April 23, 1955 in Binghamton, NY he had a passion for fishing, reading, scuba diving and politics. A former Rotary Exchange Student, graduate of SUNY Binghamton and graduate of Golden Gate University School of Law San Francisco.

Family and friends may visit Friday, February 23 rd at Most Holy Redeemer Church 100 Diamond Street, San Francisco, CA from 5:30 pm until 7:30 pm continuing with vespers offered at 7:30 pm. All are invited to attend the celebration of a Mass of Christian Burial 11:00 am Saturday, February 24 th at Most Holy Redeemer Church with burial at Holy Cross Cemetery in Colma, CA.

Donations in Thomas’ memory preferred to Most Holy Redeemer building fund, Visiting Nurses Association of San Francisco, Contemplative Outreach of Northern California or Project Open Hand.

The family wishes to thank the many loyal friends who helped care for Tom, especially the Visiting Nurse’s Association of San Francisco and the nurses and medial staff at California Pacific Medical Center for their care and support.

A memorial Mass at a later date will be celebrated at Holy Trinity Church in Binghamton, NY.

Cameron Miles Smith (1960 – 1996)
Cameron Miles Smith was born on October 4, 1960 in Seattle, WA. When he was confirmed into the Catholic Faith while attending MHR in the 1980’s, he chose St. Francis as his patron Saint. He found love, acceptance and God’s grace at MHR and we, his family, are truly thankful to all of you. Sincerely, Jennifer Carter (sister), Troy Smith (brother), Robert and Akemi Smith (parents.) Cameron passed away April 1, 1996.

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